How to find the pause button in your everyday life

Pause button

Pause buttonFeeling pulled in all directions?  Are there never enough hours in the day?  When you juggle too many balls at once, there’ll always be that one final request that tips the balance and makes you drop the lot!


If you have ever felt overwhelmed with the pace of life and need to reclaim control, here’s where to start.

Follow these three easy steps to stop the clock and reclaim a sense of order:

1. Prioritise without guilt

Edit your agenda and look at your list.  Really consider why you are doing a task. Is it because you always have done and it’s hard to break the habit?

Write down any non-essentials. If you’re doing a task that is not serving you or moving you forward in any way, drop it without guilt.

2. Be your role model

Be Kate Winslet, or Sarah Jessica Parker, or Julia Roberts , or any of the busy, multi-tasking actresses you prefer!  Act how you want to feel.  If you feel overwhelmed and panicky, take a step back for a moment, breathe and ask yourself “what would they do?”

Actresses spend all day pretending to be someone who they’re not, but by taking on the role, others see them as that person and react accordingly.

If you want to feel calm, collected and in control then act that way and watch how others react to your “new” self; you’ll see those qualities affirmed right back at you.  Soon it won’t be an act, it will be your reality.

3. Stop thinking and start acting

Get out of your head and into your body!  Sometimes we can become paralysed by our own thinking.

If we feel we have too much to do, we can get caught up in that thought process and it stops us from rolling up our sleeves and actually doing things. It’s “rabbit in the headlights” syndrome- the reflex action keeps us still, when a more productive action would be to move.

When there is too much mental clutter to sift through, write out all your thoughts and “to dos” onto a sheet of paper to get them out of your brain-space, then pick one task – any task – and do it. Don’t even look at the paper again until the first task is done.

Developing focus is an extremely valuable skill that can be learned, although it takes practise!  It is easy to become distracted when you’re interrupted by incomings calls, texts, emails, or even by your own thoughts, but being aware when you are straying and making an effort to get back on course will result in your errands becoming completed and a growing sense of control over the events in your life.